Defense of Porn

Some people would call anyone who does not keep their sexual views to themselves a straight pervert. Then again, most people are sheep. So I thought I’d take this opportunity to tell the world why enjoy pornography. More specifically why I think it is ok to say I like pornography.

First, let me define what I am talking about when I say pornography. I am not talking about prostitution (Even though I find very little difference between a porn star and a prostitute, and I believe prostitution should be legal and government regulated.) We are not talking about child porn, bestiality, or anything that clearly crosses the line from entertainment and free speech to sickness. The average porn film or scene is nothing more than a camera recording a natural action that was used to bring us all into this world. What we are talking about is simply visual display of sex used to stimulate the mind. Not that much different from the widely accepted striptease.

So why do I like porn? It looks good. The lights, the actors, everything adds to the production. It is a lot better than anything I could produce in my dorm room or at a cheap, unlit motel.

It feels good. I like the felling of having an erection. I enjoy the felling when I ejaculate, and if porn helps me get there then I like it. (Yes, I like to bust a nut once in a while. In fact I feel like I need to once in a while, any man who says I’m crazy is lying. I’m just saying what you want to say but can’t.)

It sounds good. Even though the actors are essentially playing a made up role, they express themselves in ways that I would never think of on my own. Porn gives me ideas. It forces me to keep my game up in the art of pleasing females like I was designed to do. It is always new, usually well thought out, and often creative. A real good porn scene is often like a very good meal. If it is well made it is what it is. It may not be 100% good for you, but for those 10-15 minutes you really don’t care and it’s alright. Pornography does not kill, it’s not mind altering in most cases, it can’t cause cancer, it won’t bankrupt you can control yourself; all in all it is a pretty safe vice.

So why don’t more people admit they like porn? This country has a big problem and the problem is we do not teach our children or ourselves the difference between sexual fantasy and sexual reality. Porn is strictly sexual fantasy.

Response to “Fox News…you guys are cunts”

http://thet-word.blogspot.com/2008/06/fox-newsyou-guys-are-cunts.html

The funny thing is that your bias is clearly shown in your critique of a so called bias network. If Fox News is so bad why does it lead all networks in ratings? If it is so bad who’s watching. Your right its extreme punditing and people are allowed mistakes. However, take away all the stuff fox talks about, what is there left? MSNBC, an equally as biased liberal network could be described as bad as you destroy on the flip side why don’t you write about them? The truth is liberal have their networks and conservatives have theirs. The real issue that no one addresses in that there are more conservatives in this country, which is why Fox exist. Not to support the KKK. If more black people watched Fox maybe Barak would get better coverage. If more black people were Republicans, maybe we as a race wouldn’t be at the living mercy of the Democratic Party.

Letter to the Incoming Class of 2012 to Hampton University

Empathy is defined as the mental process of identifying with the character and experiences of another person. Although the word is now used freely very few people can know you, understand your strengths and weaknesses, or could have shared your experiences close enough to really empathize with you. So, while I could write this from the perspective of understanding and knowing what you are thinking right now, we know better. So, I would rather give you a few words from one person to another person who is about to go through what the former has already survived and the latter is about to tackle.

Moving from one level to another in anything is never easy, but it is not necessarily difficult. What is difficult is what you have to do to stay “on top of the mountain” once you have arrived at the summit. I imagine many of you feel like you have arrived, and you should. By making it to Hampton University you have beaten the odds and transcended a society of can’t into a world of possibilities. However, you need to be careful because in reality you have not done much just yet. Getting here was the easy part, staying here and excelling is difficult. It takes an education for life to excel. For most of you getting here was not easy, and you refuse to allow anyone to tell you can’t enjoy it. That is fine, but I remember a proverb that says the journey of 1000 miles begins with just one step. Well, I imagine that at mile 350 when you look back it seems like you have come a long way, but if you then look forward you realize that the next step to mile 351 is as daunting and important as the first step so long ago, because 650 miles is still a massive task to accomplish.

If there is anything I can say that will help you excel at our home by the sea it is stay focused and forever hungry. Treat your first like your last and your last like your first, as one Brooklyn rapper once said. A challenge a day will keep you having to go home angry away, so strive to excel at all aspects of your life at Hampton University. Of the twelve young men I hung out with regularly freshmen year in James Hall, I was the only one to keep my scholarship. We were all on scholarship. I was the only one to apply for Honors College. Some of the people that started with me, where you are now, are not with me today because they keep looking back instead of forward. I hope your dreams don’t allow you to make the same mistake. I look forward to working with all of you in the future, and make sure you always speak truth to power. Thank you.

A Lose, Lose, LOSE Election.

I consider myself a proud political junkie on the level of Pookie from New Jack City. I am a CNN addict, when things are going well during the day I suffer from political argument withdrawal, and I can’t seem to get enough of this year’s Presidential election cycle. The three politicians that remain had to survive an Odyssey’s like epic struggle to get here today, minus the Greek Gods and tempting sirens of course.

John McCain was all but dead just seven months, when he fired most of his campaign staff and was polling behind Ron Paul in states that he would eventually go on to win. Barak Obama, well he is black and that has its own built in obstacles, but he has had to say he is not Muslim so many times you would think he was a descendent of Syrian crusades conquer Saladin, first he wasn’t black enough then he was willing because he was black, and they even attacked him by attacking his pastor for God’s sake. As for Hillary, well lets us all remember that if New Hampshire voters were not being so politically independent all the time, or if it was not for Texas and Ohio remembering why they liked her in the first place, she may not be here today. Yes, this year’s presidential election certainly has had more twist and turns then a good Agatha Christie novel, and the best part is that they real July, 4 like fireworks haven’t even begun because the general election is still seven full moths away.

So, with the prospect of one of the Democratic candidates drooping out soon and then a winner coming out of the race between the Democrat and John McCain becoming President, I wanted to take a minute and assess what we might lose after election day rather then what we might win.

If Barak were to win the nomination the Democratic Party would lose one of its smartest politicians ever and the best chance to break that seemingly unreachable glass ceiling of having a woman in the oval office giving rather than taking. Hilary Clinton is just as smart as Obama and just as tough as McCain. Graduating from Wellesley College and then Yale Law School with better grades then President Clinton and having served on the board of directors of the Yale Review of Law and Social Action, she has survived the collapse of her health care plan, and the “other woman”. Should she not be President we miss the chance to see how a female leader of the free world would be received in Saudi Arabia or Iran. We miss the chance to see how a former President plays the role of CEO of the East Wing rather than the West. We also miss the chance to tell the world that, in this country were freedom reigns you don’t have to provide sperm to call the shots and enforce the laws. We miss the chance to give the women of America who cook our meals, change our dippers, and birth our future a voice that shares their unique experience. Survey the Democratic landscape, there seems to be few replacements for this historic figure in the horizon. Junior Senator Claire McCaskill from Missouri may be the only viable Democratic female perspective candidate, she is said to be on the long list if Senator Obama wins the nomination. However she was only elected in 2006, and has not been a Governor or Mayor to show executive experience.

If Hilary or McCain were to win the Democratic Party would lose the chance to anoint its best politician since President Clinton and President Kennedy before him. The dream seems to die if Barak does not win, and that is the perception whether you dream with him or not. I think it is fair to say that no one actual knows if Barak can bring the change he speaks of or the change we need. It is also fair to say that if he does not win the energy, excitement, and hope he has brought these last few mouths dies as well. The future perspectives of African American Presidential candidates are worse than that of the party’s perspectives for females. I can think of no current African American Congressmen, Mayor, or Governor that can come close to matching the story, skill, and genius of the Junior Senator from Illinois. If Barak loses in the primary or in the general election we has a country and a free society would have passed up a once in a life time opportunity to single to the world ( but mostly ourselves) that race does not matter and the American dream is real for all who are willing to work hard and seek it.

When the Democrats come out of the sandbox and pick a nominee if that nominee beats McCain America would lose its best chance to tell the far right that they don’t matter in American politics. Through the straight talk express has slowed as he has tried to “unite” his party, John McCain is his party’s best hope to move away from the ideal, zeal, zero substance politics of the Regan era and back to the moderate politics of Eisenhower. At 71, John McCain would bring a life time of American history and service that the Democratic candidates lack. If he loses the Republican Party’s far right would undoubtedly jump on the opportunity to say that a Republican coalition of independents and mainstream America cannot win, and that a need to move back to courting the religious right and extremely rich existed. Newly minted “super conservatives” are waiting in the wings for a Democratic blow out of 2008 to bring “their” party back to that all time religion. Should John McCain not be President we miss the opportunity to tell the world that moderates not extremist dominate America’s policy.

No matter what happens in November we all know, someone will lose. America while accruing a future will lose an opportunity to set right one of the many wrongs of its past, no matter who wins. One thing we can be sure of is that we are now living history and I for one am enjoying my front row seat, even if it means I cry at the end of this cliff hanger.

BY D.W

What kills more Black Boys then bullets, guns, or war?

As I read Tonyaa Weathersbee “Putting blacks in prison is latest legacy of slavery” from Black Voices in Commentary, I couldn’t help but think of another tragedy that is nothing more the minority genocide. It is true that the amount of balck people, especially balck males, incarcerated is dangerous and warrants our attention. However, what about the number one killer of balck men in America? No, I am not talking about bullets, gangs, marijuana, crack cocaine, white women, or fried chicken. I am talking about abortions, and as a read Ms. Weatherbee’s story I thought to myself that, rather than jail this is the next big problem black people will face.

Now, I am as liberal as anyone who is willing to call themselves liberal but when there is a problem out that affects a race of people ideology should go out the window. I consider myself pro-choice, I fully support gay marriage, and I believe in universal health care. So please don’t revoke my Democratic Party Plus card when I say that I think that abortion was one of just the many things produced by the feminist movement of the 1970’s that destroyed the Black American family. More than any of our brother and sisters locked up behind bars, abortion as it is used today has robbed the black race of opportunity and future. Now, I could tell you that about 1,200 African-American babies are killed by abortion in the United States every day. I could tell you that since abortion was legalized in 1973, more than 14 million African-American babies have been killed. I could tell you that something like 35% of all abortions in the United States are performed on African-American women, while they represent only 13% of the female population of this country. However, I rather tell you that abortion is a crutch we no longer can afford to use as contraception. Unlike jail that simple disenfranchises African Americans, the Black American use and abuse of abortions eradicates any chance of that potential African American child becoming a functional citizen at all. In a democratic society in which numbers equal power, jail is a stumbling stone while abortion has turned into the wall of Jericho. Young Black males need to stay out of jail, but once out of jail if they don’t become more productive citizens, if they don’t take responsibility for the lives they produce and affect, if they don’t stop killing their dreams before they have a chance to blossom, they might as well stay in jail because they will never be free. Slavery was designed not just to enslave the body, but the mind and the soul of the African. Slave masters beat the biggest Negro to death in front of the rest to prove they could. They raped the black women in front of her husband and her son’s to prove that the men were powerless to do anything about it. Now as we enter the 21^st century, if we as black males continue to perpetuate a situation in which makes abortion more instead of less necessary, we may as well be giving our women to slave master and we are still powerless to do anything about it.

QUESTIONS 4 THE PUBLIC on the Black Athlete

1. Do Black Professional and Colligate athletes perform better in athletics more because of hard work, the share force of their numbers in most competitive major sports, or a natural athletic advantage as opposed to other races?

2. What role does race play in the “competitive nature” of sports?

3. Why do International “white athletes” perform better than American “white athletes” in International and American athletics, when you compare their performance to that of Black American Athletes?

4. What role did sports have in exposing the American Civil Rights Movement to the International community? Do Black Athletes still have any role today in exposing those who would not otherwise be exposed to Black American culture to it, through sports?

5. What is a more realistic dream in society today for a young black American male (economic, social, and societal situation existing without any great drawbacks), being a star in the NBA, MLB, or NFL? Becoming CEO of an established American company? Becoming a doctor or lawyer at a previously all white hospital or law firm?

6. What role does sex, sexuality, and the subsequent sexual exploitation of the Black athlete play in the shaping of their image.

7. Does such a thing as “penis envy” of the Africain American male penis or the Africain American female body actually exist in other American racial and ethnic group?

8. Is it black people as a whole or the black athlete as individual that defines what a black Athlete is in America?

9. Is it the struggle with environments and situations that we all as Black people say are negative that produces the Black athlete? If so, would obliterating such environments, hardships, and struggles of black people lead to the disappearance of the black athlete as we know it? (I.E-single parent households, ghettos and projects, inner-city focus on athletics, racism)

What role does politics and business play in the production of the image of the Black athlete?

Calling on a Lighthouse

Facts make for good arguments, but people are made of opinions. I cannot state this for a fact, but I am of the opinion that it takes men to successfully raise men. It has been my experience, both personal and observed that a strong male role model greatly increases the chances of success in life for young men. This is true especially for African American young men because a strong male role model is too often a luxury item in the communities some of us come from. Some will read this and say that they are the product of a single parent, matriarch household and come out well enough to make it to Hampton University. To that I say, touché. With that said however, I believe it would be hard for anyone to deny that they are benefits young men gets from seeing a figure that they can relate to, has at least the same trials and problems if not the same views and opinions, and is not necessarily a father figure but is at least a “lighthouse” when decisions need to be made. A lighthouse can be defined as a tower or other structure displaying or flashing a very bright light for the guidance of ships in avoiding dangerous areas. It can be viewed as a person sends out light from where they are placed to guide those out in sea to avoid dangerous situations or areas.

There were  about 51 students of Hampton University inducted into Honors College with me, 11 of them (including me) where young men. They are known as Marcel Wallace, Charles Todd, Anthony Starks, Craig Stanley, Jason Sherer, Niko Weaver, Jeffery Eugene, Ianandra Booker, Steven Ballard, Isaiah Ares-Batko, and me, Dwayne Kwaysee Wright. The 21% of new inductees represented by the male gender falls far short of matching Hampton Universities already astonishing 1:3 male to female ratio. Meaning that there are slightly more females that were new inductees to Honors College, then they were proportionality females in the freshmen class.

I am sure the males inducted into Honors College in the spring of 2008 will do their best to improve the University, better the community, and reach a standard of excellence that will make them lighthouses for their peers and eventually the classes that will be inducted after them. My call is for the current male members of Honors College to be more of lighthouse to us. Yes, we saw a few of you during orientation week, and those who were there did an outstanding job. We may see you in the occasional school forum now and then, or at a function specific to your major. We know that you have excelled and inhabit copious leadership roles in numerous organizations and clubs.

Ok, but how many of you when at a forum or stand up to speak at a meeting actually introduces yourself as a member of Honors College? How many of you, that were at the induction, took a couple of the new guys numbers and actually then called to find out how things were going? How many of you where not at the induction tried to find out whom the new guys were and what they were all about? Now some may say this is simply not their job or responsibility. Some may claim that doing such this will not make a difference anyway. While this may or may not be true, we all as new members represent the old members as much as they represent us. As modest or as immense a representation that may be, it should be enough to make showing and giving a little extra acceptable. You don’t really have to go that whole extra mile either; you don’t always have to be your brothers’ absolute keeper to make the necessary influence. Sometimes all young men require is a friendly nudge from a familiar face, rather than a babysitter. This not at all meant to call my brothers out; rather it is designed to get us all thinking. The ocean that is this life we all live in at our home by the sea is vast, why not be a lighthouse?

Give and Take

Why do certain Females believe that a man is responsible for their actions? A girl gives it up and a party it is the guy’s fault. A girl gives it up at a party, in her room, or in a back alley and it’s the guys fault. He seduced her. As if we have forgotten in the 21^st century that it takes two to tango. We always here that guys are thinking about sex all the time. Ok, and girls are thinking ‘bout what Molecular Physics? Come on, girls think about sex as much if not more than guys. I just can’t figure out why some females put themselves in the positions that they do. I know some of the smartest, most attractive mature females that cry just as much as the girl you would consider promiscuous when their “man” is caught doing something he should not have. They always fail to mention that while they are on their way to a MBA, Tyrone is back in the hood barely attending community college.

People, especially females in my opinion, too often see what they want to and ignore what is right in front of their faces. In a significant other we all seem to seek the fantasy rather than the truth. Yea, I can work with that. No you can’t sister, if he isn’t doing A, B nor C he will never get to XY or Z. It is simple logic you have to begin to finish, and too many so called relationships never really begin and so they never fail to end. Then, once the dastardly deed has already been done, we all look to place blame. Did he cheat; was he simply not good enough, what happened? So much speculation on a topic only two people are experts on? Why?

Being the nerd that I am I, I have never and will never claim to be the excerpt on love and relationships. With that said I also realize that I may not always show it but I am still very young. Yea but, I can only say what I see with my own eyes and my mind’s eyes. What I see is that love is not logical, or at least what we consider love. The human emotional heart transcends any experimentation or innovation the human mind can come up with. In our minds we strive to be all we can be, in our heart we settle for what makes us feel good no matter what level it leaves us on. I am not sure that that in its self is such a bad thing, but what I am sure is that it leaves us weak. When a girl can see her boyfriend cheat, feel her husband beat her, or know that he is just not a good man, she is weak. We tell young men to think with their head not their penis, and we tell females to stay away from boys. Why?

There is a double standard that exists between young men and women. A young man that has many sexual partners is a player, a young women that does the same thing is a whore. That is wrong and sets a bad example in the heads of everyone as to what is allowed and what is not. However, a young lady that lies on a man is “traumatized”, while a young man’s same lie is considered vindictive at least. This sets as bad an example, true equality is exactly that. A relationship where no one wears the pants and two people are seen the same way regardless of what is between their legs….

“In remembering the past, what will you do to contribute to a brighter future?”

What is the future if not that what we all wish for, but has not yet come? A dream. The past has already happened and we can’t change it. The past is too inflexible to be a dream. The present is so hectic sometimes we barley even realize we are in it. The present is too high paced to be enjoyed as a good dream. The future affects everything we do, as our dreams do.

The way we think about what has already happened depends a lot on what we think its affect will be after our time. What we say or do in the present depends constantly on how it will be perceived a week, a day, or a minute from the time we do the action. The future has no limits. No dream is too big for the future, and the minute it becomes too big, we associate it with the present. There is nothing more perfect in the society we live in than the future. However, with the power that perfection brings to any entity comes with it the challenge to make it more than a word and the responsibility to keep the dream breathing for all those that use it to keep gong themselves.

I have been asked to describe what I will do for the dream that we call the future, taking in to consideration the past. I answer this challenge the only way I know how, by looking at my situation and adding my dream of what could be better to the collective.

I look at the young American black male today and I see a social construct bought into by group of people that had very little say in the constructing. I see a house built and sold at a high cost, but the inhabitants never really got to decided whether or not they wanted to live there at that time. We, as black men, could be so much better then what we are. However, we must be careful because I am sure every generation look at themselves and hope the next generation would be better, we are no exception. The difference is control. Control over what we produce and the social image we project. Hip- hop started as an art to give expression to the oppression of those in the ethnic ghettos. My dream is that we return to our roots. I think I can contribute to a better future by supporting those artists that do return Hip-hop’s roots. I think I can contribute to a better future by my peers that are doing the right thing. In the discussion on Wednesday night there was much talk about the independence of the Black male. The funny thing about independence is that is never truly stands alone. It takes a group of thinkers to lead another group of thinkers in the right way. That is how communities and neighborhoods move, not necessarily one by one but one group of young men leading other young men in the right way. That is independence. My dream is that no matter what a young black decides to believe in, he is the source of that decision.

I think I can contribute to a better future by supporting a refocus on the family. Black men we have too often failed black women. We are immature and naive. We use our natural gifts for self gratification rather than service, and that is not God’s will. We are too often barbaric and too seldom compassionate. It is way past time that we replace the thug culture with a culture worth. It is way past the time that we allow our bodies to grow physical, but allow our biggest most productive organ, our brain, to shrivel up like a dream deferred. If I could contribute one thing directly to the future it would be a black man that some black women could bring home both to her mom and her best friend. A balck man that she could carry both to the bank and the night club. A balck man that both her boss and pastor could respect and be impressed by. A balck man amazing both when the door closes at night, and when the kids need to go to school in the morning. This is my dream.

My contribution to a better future will be a son who respects the life that God has blessed him with. It is my hope that I will raise a young man that is successful in school, respects his past but lives for the future. If there is one thing I could give my son to live on it would be that his life is not to be judged by what he made it, but rather the affect it had on his family, community, and society. If I could give anything to the future it would be that.

Black women you have too often disappointed balck men. As strong and intelligent as black women are, I think they often forget the line between strong and arrogant or the difference between intelligent and fool hardy. You sometimes take independence to extremes that no real man can accept (for if no man is an island currently women was into meant to live alone), and you overestimate the strength of even the strongest black man. My dream is for my God to bless me with a black woman that is not just the Queen of our house, but the Queen of my heart. This is my dream.

My contribution to a better future will be a daughter who respect herself and has reference for her Lord’s law above all else. I want to raise young lady that knows and is not afraid to show affection, but knows the limits of even her strongest desires. I want to inspirea young lady that submits her heart, but not her mind, to her husband when the time is right and raises black children that were a little more successful than those that gave them their name when she is ready. If I could give anything to the future it would be that.

What is the future if not that what we all wish for. I can hope all I want to, but no matter how small or easy to achieve, it takes a village to achieve a dream just as it does to raise a child. By adding my dream of what could be better to the collective, it is my hope as we work together to make that collective dream a reality we will make the future better.

BY D.W

This Week’s Questions

1.       What is more important than an education?

2.        What would you give to ensure your future?

3.       How is what Hilary Clinton is doing in Texas and Ohio different from what Rudy Giuliani did with Florida?

4.       Is drawing lines in the sand in big, populous states a uniquely New York thing? What does Hillary Clinton do if she loses, what does Illinois do if Obama wins? Rahm Emmanuel anyone?

5.       Is it fair to say that it is more important to the Democrats to keep and expand their lead in Congress, than win the Presidency?

6.       Now that John McCain is basically the nominee will anyone ask him if he plans to serve for more than one term if he wins? Is it fair to say that at over 70 and considered a moderate maverick, choosing a running mate will be the single most important decision McCain makes?

7.       Why is there an acceptable amount of immorality among people today?

8.       Will there be an United States of America in 2076?

9.       Does the NBA All Star game really matter?

10.   What do you say when you know you are right but everyone else insist you are wrong?